20．Anyone can start an argument，but it takes a strong person to stop the argument．Many people want to be the stronger person，but they often lack the know-how．If for you，the question of how to stop an argument is cooling yourself off and showing your ability to resolve conflict，follow these steps and begin the process of renewing your relationship．
Step One Take a time-out from the person and the argument．Go and get a cup of coffee，go to the bathroom or take a drive．Do whatever you can to get yourself out of the place where the argument is taking place．Remember not to leave the argument unresolved and walk away； just leave for long enough to cool off and get back together later．
Step Two Plan to finish the argument at a time when you can both be uninterrupted for 30minutes．An uninterrupted 30minutes is long enough for you both to share your feelings and discuss why you feel that way．
Step Three Think and plan during your time-out so that you're prepared for your meeting when it does take place．Keep yourself from remembering the other person's past mistakes or from making personally pointed attacks．Do this by keeping your focus on the issue at hand and always coming back to that issue．
Step Four Keep the problem between the two of you．Regardless of how badly your feelings are hurt or how much you want to discuss this problem with your other friends，refrain （克制） for the sake of your friendship．Stopping an argument is hard enough with other people getting involved．
Step Five Be open and honest with one anothr，be willing to show your vulnerability （脆弱性） and be open to the fact that you may be wrong．No one is right all the time，and your argument is more resolvable if you keep from feeling like you have to defend your every move．
Step Six Say"I'm sorry"even if you think you're justified in what you said or did．Just hearing those words has a healing effect on every relationship，and most of the time we wound each other without being aware of it．
25．The author's purpose in writing this passage is mainly toA．
A．introduce the steps to resolve conflict
B．tell readers how to cool themselves off
C．tell readers how to become a strong man
D．state that arguments are useless in resolving conflict
26．When an argument happens，one of the things you'd better do is toC．
A．find a friend for help
B．order he other to shut up
C．have a bath to cool yourself off
D．leave and never meet the other again
27．Which statement is NOT the author's attitude to resolving conflict？B
A．To renew the relationship．
B．To attack the other．
C．To admit one's own mistakes．
D．To apologize to the other．
分析 本文主要講述了在人們的日常生活中不可避免會出現(xiàn)的矛盾和沖突，作者在文中就解決矛盾沖突的方法對讀者進行了建議．
解答 25．A 寫作目的題．根據(jù)文章內(nèi)容If for you，the question of how to stop an argument is cooling yourself off and showing your ability to resolve conflict，follow these steps and begin the process of renewing your relationship．，主要講述了在人們的日常生活中不可避免會出現(xiàn)的矛盾和沖突，作者在文中就解決矛盾沖突的方法對讀者進行了建議．結(jié)合選項故選A
26．C 細節(jié)題．根據(jù)文章內(nèi)容，Remember not to leave the argument unresolved and walk away； just leave for long enough to cool off and get back together later有了矛盾沖突的時候不能不管不理，而是應(yīng)該自我冷靜一下，隨后再來處理問題．結(jié)合選項，故選C
27．B 細節(jié)題．根據(jù)文章內(nèi)容，Regardless of how badly your feelings are hurt or how much you want to discuss this problem with your other friends，refrain （克制） for the sake of your friendship…be open to the fact that you may be wrong…Say"I'm sorry"even if you think you're justified in what you said or did文中分別有提到重新恢復(fù)和朋友的關(guān)系、承認自己的錯誤以及向?qū)Ψ降狼福髡卟⒉毁澇晒魧Ψ竭@種做法，結(jié)合選項，故選B
點評 本文是一個科教類閱讀，題目涉及多道細節(jié)理解題，做題時結(jié)合原文和題目有針對性的找出相關(guān)語句進行仔細分析，結(jié)合選項選出正確答案．推理判斷題也是要在抓住關(guān)鍵句子的基礎(chǔ)上合理的分析才能得出正確答案，切忌胡亂猜測，一定要做到有理有據(jù)．
